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I read an interesting article recently titled - I have fun with my girlfriend but she has no prospects. So a reader has a girlfriend who still lives with her parents, has a part-time job, and yet doesn't contribute to the household bills, and has no aspirations whatsoever for the future in terms of her career. The reader asks the agony aunt if he should stay with her or listen to her friends who tell him that she is a waster. The agony aunt replies that a person is not their job and that it is the society that has burdened us with a list of milestones to achieve by a certain age.
This got me thinking. I understand that a person is not their job. And just because a person has a high-salaried job, they are not going to make good husbands or wives. And society indeed has pressured us into thinking that we gotta own a house by a certain age, get married at another and so on and so forth. No one really asks at what age we ought to be happy.
However, there seems to be one red flag here. His girlfriend doesn't help her parents in any way. Isn't that a sign that she is cool about people paying for her and is not an adult yet? What would happen when they ask her to move out one day?
I don't know if it's a millennial vs Gen Z thing, but since when is enjoying life without paying your bills acceptable? Since when is mooching off people acceptable?
In my experience, people with no responsibilities are a lot of work. And it is not just about money. She can be a housewife and never pursue a career and that will be her choice. But doesn't the I-don't-care-who-is-paying-my-bills attitude permeate into I-don't-think-I-can-take-any-other-responsibility reality? Don't these people sit back and relax while those around them make all the plans, pay all the bills and insurance premiums, and make sure everything in the house is in working condition?
Just wondering.
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